Why Failure is Sometimes Okay

Last year I set out to be awesome by accomplishing 30 things before I turned 30. For some reason, likely a lack of psychotherapy and a need to set arbitrary quantifiers of success, I set these goals for myself. But I essentially set myself up for disappointment by coming up with a list of 30 things I thought I should do in a year, on a limited budget with respect to both time and money.

I turned 30 on Sunday and accomplished just over 60% of my goals. That’s a “D” if you’re grading me. But it doesn’t mean I failed.

Photo credit for my motivational poster: Trek Earth

It just means that my definition of success was too arbitrary.  While I may not have completed the 30 things I set forth to do a year ago, that doesn’t make me a failure. It makes me someone who was too busy living life to be completing things on a list I wrote a year ago that don’t matter to me now.

The next time you don’t succeed at something, ask yourself if it matters. It is something that will make you happy, more fulfilled, or better at life? Failing at anything less than that, isn’t failing at all.

7 thoughts on “Why Failure is Sometimes Okay

  1. SMD @ lifeaccordingtosteph says:

    I hope you had a fabulous birthday weekend! <br /><br />I end up never completing some of my goals because they turn out to not be important or really desired. I evaluate myself at the end and think I failed at that – with acceptance and sometimes with pleasure.

  2. Jodi says:

    I never make those lists or do New Year&#39;s Resolutions just b/c I don&#39;t want to feel bad when I don&#39;t accomplish them! haha! I do have a bucket list but they are just things to do and places to visit at some point in my life! You have plenty of time to do many more of the things on your list. Welcome to your 30s!

  3. Emily says:

    Hope you have an awesome &quot;dirty thirty&quot;! Looks like you got a good chunk of stuff done. Sometimes it&#39;s hard to plan it all into our schedules…but I&#39;d say more than 50% is a success!

  4. Kay says:

    I love this! When I inevitably &quot;fail&quot; at my 30 by 30, I hope I remember this! The list seems so good in theory, but it should be the life that&#39;s important. Ya know?

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